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21
May
2013
3 simple secrets of effective coaching

It's International Coaching Week 2013. This is the second article to raise awareness of coaching and its benefits.  The first is here.

Today's article offers 3 simple secrets of effective coaching:

"The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen.

Perhaps the most important thing we ever give to each other is our attention.

A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words." ~ Rachel Naomi Remen

Whether you are coaching someone, talking with them about something that is important to them or having a deep meaningful conversation, these three tips will make the conversation a memorable one.

One - Listen

Most people think that the opposite of speaking is waiting. They are formulating what they want to say rather than listening to what you are saying.

You can tell they are not listening because you do not have their full attention.

Two - Ask Questions

Ask. One. Question. At. A. Time.

It's OK to be brief.  Then wait for the answer.

If they don't give a clear answer, ask another question. This avoids loaded questions, where you are fishing for the answer you want to hear.

Good: What do you think of Madonna's new single?

Bad: Don't you think Madonna's new single is awful?

Re-phrase their answer to check your understanding. It's a great way of building rapport.

Three - Be silent. Hold the space

Allow the person time to think. This does not usually happen in normal conversation, so often leads to a new insight.

It builds trust too.

I block out one session a week to be of service to someone.

No-one needs coaching.

If you'd like an opportunity to experience if coaching is for you, please get in touch to arrange a complimentary conversation.

 

 

 

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